If you and your boyfriend have been in a relationship for awhile, you might be considering your long-term prospects. Can you create build a thriving, happy future together?
We’ve all experienced difficult relationships. You could feel jaded and gripe that “all men are dogs.” If you expect men to treat you disrespectfully, you’ll have no trouble finding men that fit that description and leave you feeling disappointed. Good men do exist, and they want to treat you with the love and respect you deserve. How do you know if you’ve found a keeper?
He Gets Along With Your Friends and Family
Although he may not get along with all your friends and family, he needs to interact well with most of them. When your partner doesn’t make an effort with your loved ones, he probably feels threatened by them. If he’s not trying to get to know your loved ones, he’s probably not making efforts with you in other aspects of the relationship. When your partner gets along with your loved ones, you will never feel pulled between him and your friends.
He Handles Conflict Well
Most likely, the two of you will disagree on certain issues from time to time. As long as the two of you can work it out in a positive way, you should be okay. When you have uncomfortable conversations, he needs to listen to you, validate your feelings, and offer his own perspective. If he’s acting stubborn, disrespectful, and combative, he may be too immature for the long haul.
Speaking of Maturity
A man who does body shots at dive bars on the weekend with his man-child friends is not marriage material. We’ve all had colorful pasts, but if he hasn’t matured past his college years, he’s not ready to make a commitment.
However, if your partner outgrew his wild party phase years ago, you are in good company. We’re not saying that you have to be teetotalers who go to bed at nine every night, but it helps to have a healthy relationship with alcohol use.
If you decide to make any major changes in your life, such as quitting your soul-sucking job and striking out on your own, does he support your decision? You can’t stay small and refrain from pursuing your dreams because your partner does not encourage you. A good man will cheer you on as you chase your goals.
He Gives You Space
If your partner wants you around 24/7, he may have some codependent issues. In order for your relationship to thrive, you need to give one another space for your creative pursuits. You both have separate interests and talents, and you should explore them. As important as it is to spend quality time together, it’s also valuable to your relationship to spend some time apart.
You Feel Like a Better Person By Being With Him
Does he bring out your best qualities? Have you learned from some of your own mistakes and apologized when you’ve hurt his feelings? When you’re with a compassionate man, his kindness will inspire you.
Chances are, if you’re with a keeper, you could probably keep adding to his list. If that’s the case, our Pasadena wedding planners would love to help you create the wedding of your dreams! Contact our wedding coordinators at Wish Wonder Dream to get started.