If you and your partner have been together for quite some time, you may want to consider creating a future together. Although the Beatles may sing “all you need is love,” creating a long-lasting relationship requires so much more. Both parties must constantly work on their relationship and check in with one another.
Chances are, if you’re visiting us at Wish Wonder Dream, you’re preparing for your upcoming wedding. Planning a wedding is a huge undertaking, but one that you will accomplish once your wedding day is over. Creating a thriving, healthy marriage requires a lifetime of work. What are some steps you and your partner can take to maintain a healthy, loving relationship?
You love your partner, but he needs to know what behaviors you find simply unacceptable. Women, in particular, can be very intuitive and easily pick up on emotional cues just by reading someone’s body language. You cannot assume that your partner can read your mind simply by observing your facial expression or other unspoken cues.
It’s important to establish boundaries gently. Have you ever screamed at your partner when you thought he was acting like a jerk? It probably only made things worse. With men, the best way to establish boundaries is to check in with him and make simple requests. Men want to make you happy, but they don’t always know how. Make some requests and don’t feel bad about it.
Don’t Put Your Partner Down
We all make mistakes, but when you shame your partner for screwing up, especially in front of others, he will resent you. Instead, have a frank discussion with him and let him know why you feel hurt. When he knows what he did wrong without being shamed, he’s more likely to address his bad behavior and rectify the situation.
Give Each Other Space
You don’t have to spend every waking moment with your partner. You both have dreams and goals, and you’ll need to give one another the space to achieve them. If you are holding one another back, you’ll both grow resentful.
If you decide to leave your job to start your own business, you want your partner to be supportive of your decision. If he encourages you to stay in the job that makes you so unhappy simply because it pays well or it is stable, he’s not getting it.
This goes both ways. Cheer your husband on as he pursues his hopes and his dreams. Stepping out into the unknown is scary and not always encouraged in our society, so your support is valuable.
Sometimes talking to your partner about your concerns is uncomfortable or scary. Do it anyway. Unspoken thoughts and feelings can fester into resentment, which damages relationships. Even if you do get into a spat, you may feel closer afterward once your thoughts have been vocalized.
These are only a few tips for creating a healthy, loving, long-term relationship. However, right now you need to plan your wedding. Our wedding coordinators at Wish Wonder Dream are happy to help you create the wedding of your dreams. Contact our experienced wedding coordinators in Pasadena today to get started.